Lori Klauser

Goal Setting

Goal setting is something that many of us do or say we do. Being codependent setting goals can help you by helping you focus on yourself. Having a goal to focus on will help motivate you. Studies show that having a specific goal in mind and having it be m... Read >

Finding Acceptance in a Codependent Relationship

Not everybody is going to choose to live by the rules you live your life by. Everyone has choices. But when you see people living life to their choosing and who seem to not be in control, you want to be able to change their choices. We, of course, don'... Read >

Being a Reactionary in a Codependent Relationship

When you are a reactionary you are reacting to other people including their feelings and their actions to those feelings. We also react to their problems and behaviors surrounding those problems. We then become uncomfortable with what is happening around ... Read >

Anger and Codependency

Anger is a natural God-given emotion but it can at times get the best of us. It can be an essential device for basic survival, but we need to know how to recognize it so we can learn to convey it in a more appropriate manner than angry outbursts. Anger ca... Read >

Finding Trust in a Codependent Relationship

Trust is an important element in every relationship. If trust isn't a priority within the relationship, there isn't much of a relationship. As codependents, we learned a lot of the traits we carry with us throughout our life in our early childhood. As chi... Read >

Being an Enabler in a Codependent Relationship

An enabler or rescuer is a person whose actions make it easy for someone with an addiction or who is dependent upon something to keep on in their poor behavior. The person you are aiding could be doing any of the following: drinking too much, abusing drug... Read >

Self-love and Codependency

To love yourself is important especially when you are in a codependent relationship. It is essential to your welfare and happiness. You need to learn to value yourself and your life. It is imperative that you honor the feelings you feel, but you should no... Read >

Being a Victim In a Codependent Relationship

When you come to see that you are codependent, you realize you are preoccupied with what the significant other person in your life does, where they are and that you are mostly focused on the happenings in their life and not your own. Maybe your mood influ... Read >

Detachment

Detaching from a loved one with an addiction means regaining control of you by removing yourself from the emotional turmoil caused by the behaviors of the other. The first thing you must do is become aware that a problem exists. Detachment can be the key ... Read >

Recovery from Codependency is Possible

Recovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday's choices are the... Read >

Signs of Codependency and the Steps You Can Take to Start Recovery

Codependency usually comes about as your response to another person's chemical dependency. It revolves around your relationships with the people in your life. It involves the effects these people have on you. You, in turn, then try to affect them and thei... Read >

The Obstruction of Shame

When you come to realize that you are codependent, the feeling of shame might arise within you. You may feel that there is something wrong with you, that you are not good enough, that you have made large errors in judgment. Remember, you never have to apo... Read >

Taking Care of Yourself

Have you ever wondered if it's them that need to grow, change, be a better person and be more responsible or could it possibly be you? We are all responsible for our own lives. If you are living with a chemically dependent person, though, you may have tak... Read >

Helping Heal Your Relationships

There is hope that recovering codependents can have healthy fulfilling relationships. Once you accept your codependency and start work on your own life and yourself, you can begin building or rebuilding relationships with others. Never feel stuck in a... Read >

Establishing Boundaries

Codependents sometimes seem almost misplaced. You seem to have a hard time relating to whom you truly are and for that reason you have a hard time setting boundaries. You have a hard time saying no to people and you let people cross the line of what shoul... Read >